First Impressions, Assumptions, and Judgements

I am the kind of girl who likes things pretty straight forward.  I don't like a lot of beating around the bush, and because of that, I am pretty frank myself.

I also have a bit of a soft spot for the nerdy type.  There is not much else as sexy as a guy with some intelligence and a dirty mind, wrapped up in a seemingly corruptible package.

It is the contrast, for me, I think.  The whole looks can be deceiving thing.

I like a guy that can both be told and tell.  I think its that Switch thing. - Another day.

I guess that means, that like every girl, or everyone else, I am a bit of a hypocrite. 

Up front but also deceptive.   What a combination. 

Dating on the whole is like that anyway.  Dancing around truth and deception, to see if two people click.  When you are getting to know someone, like that, it is way easier to hide the crazy rather than letting that freak flag fly.  My biggest deception, tho I try my best not to let it be that, is the fact that I date multiple guys. Well, that and I am bat shit crazy.

Surprisingly, most guys don't like that.

I don't get it.  Less work right?

Sometimes tho, it's not an issue.  That in itself is like a breath of fresh air.  

I'd like to tell you, that I have had more of those moments than not, but alas, most of the guys that I see take my lifestyle a bit grudgingly.  At least at first.  I have had a couple come around to the idea, but for the most part, they are not so happy about it.

I bring this up because I recently went on a date with a guy off an online site.  We never met before, but it turns out we had a mutual friend.  

I usually like to have a few conversations online or via text before I actually meet someone, just to kind of get a feel for them, but in this case the conversation was somewhat minimal, compared to some, but because of the friend of a friend thing I was a bit more lenient, and we made a date to meet. 

Then I flaked. 

Then he, kinda, flaked.

I admit, I had a few doubts after the flakiness, but my friend told me to give him a chance, and I am nothing if not trusting of my friends.

Finally the time comes.

I walk from my car to the theater and all I see is this cute guy with a curly sorta mop of hair leaning against the wall, hands in pocket.

The things that run through your mind during that first moment.

Introductions were made; tickets were bought; then as we made our way to the door he voiced that I was thinking. 'At least you are pretty' he said as we walked in.  I had chosen another adjective, but the sentiment was the same.

Don't lie.  It is always better if you find someone attractive. 

The movie, tho not one I would have chosen, turned out to be good, but by the end I had also learned a little bit about my cute mop headed friend, and it didn't take long for him to prove me right.

It's kind of like a sixth sense, sometimes, knowing when I guy is into you.

Waiting on them to make a move, well... that can be hell.  Depending on how brave a guy we are talking about.  Luckily this guy was on point. 

I like that in a guy.  Someone that goes for what they want. Someone not afraid to strike out.  It can totally change the mood of the night.  

What started out as an evening of almost complete mystery, had now become a hot make out session in the back of an empty theater. 

Oh how I love public make outs!! Or well anything a little on the 'dangerous' side without actually being 'dangerous,' - Also for another day.

What a night.

I love it when a man surprises me in a good way.  First impressions can be deceiving, even more so with just online messages and texting.   Nothing beats a good face to face.

I will most definitely be seeing my mop haired friend again, soon, because not only is he super cute with a great smile, and the ability to make me laugh, but he is also very okay with the fact that I am seeing other guys. No matter how many times I hear it, I have to admit that it is super refreshing, to have someone be that okay with it, and also be someone fun to hang out with, and to have it happen so soon, and nonchalantly, well, it is a blessing of its own making. 

Is kinda crazy how things work out.  I am glad the universe was on my side, at least about this.  It seems I have added another notch in my lipstick case, and I couldn't be more comfortable with it.

What are you attracted to readers?

Is it more physical or emotional or maybe intellectual...?

Would you prefer up front or do you like to tip toe around and feel people out before you unload?

What was your last date like?

Did they surprise you or was it predictable?

There is nothing worse for me than predictable.  It's funny because as we were talking, he told me that our mutual friend had mentioned that I get bored quickly.  What an excellent observation.  I do get bored quite easily, but to have someone refer to me like that, so concisely, is both awesome and not.  Awesome because its true, but not so awesome because it makes me wonder what made them think that...

Is it the awesomeness that I see in myself just thriving for change, or is it something derogatory?

I guess that's just the way it is tho.  You have to base things on how you feel, not the supposed thoughts of others, and right now I feel pretty darn good about myself, and I don't give a fuck what you think. 

How do you feel about yourselves readers? 

How do your friends describe you?

Are they right?

Do you care?

Let me know what you think...